Writer's Block: Let's stay friends
Apr. 4th, 2010 09:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Um, sort of. It depends on how you look at it. With today's technology it's a lot easier to "stay in touch" than in the past, which allows for mild snooping, and less formal contact. Let's take a look at my roster:
Eric Gleisner - We knew each other for a very long time before dating... we dating for four months, I ended it because of distance. It was very amicable, and almost sadder in that regard. We've stayed in very spotty contact over the last 8 years, always positive, always over the phone because he's a technophobe. +1 (we will always have friendship tendencies)
Eric Busch - Dated off and on for a couple years, usually ending okay. The last time we broke up I was very upset, but the desire for friendship overrode the other feelings. Then when I started dating Dan we had been in a limbo of sorts, and he ended up getting hurt and things were pretty messy for awhile. After that we didn't speak for... oh... maybe a year to two years save a brief snippet here or there on AIM. Since then, spotty internet contact and catching up. +0 (we will probably never be friends, but will always be friendly)
Dan Voegele - Dated for four years, broke up off and on for a couple months, officially broke up a month after our 4-year anniversary, then major family issues forced me to live with him a couple months after that, and we spent the next six months in this very confused state of dating-not-dating, which I like to call 60/40 dating. When he finally kicked me out, we were done. Compared to my other relationships we've kept up more consistent contact. In the beginning it was a lot of fighting texts and calls, some weird social situations we were both attending, and then we cut off contact for a few months. After everything calmed, sometimes contact, though I don't really prefer it. It's hard to get someone who was a huge part of your life for a fifth of it to disappear. Overall I feel like it was very messy, but we don't currently hate each other (though I know we did for parts of our relationship). +0 (too much has happened. In theory we could be friends, but in reality it's just too hard)
Bryce Courneya - I'm not sure if he really counts, because of the length of time we dated and we were never bf/gf, but dating him led to me dating the best boy ever, so I'm including him. Met him at a party of a mutual friend's, we immediately started hanging out pretty much every day for a month. There was always something off, and we had a lengthy talk about it and decided to not continue. That was very friendly. Then he gradually started cutting me out and becoming more rude, and when I started dating Steve he pretty much disappeared from our lives, and only grudgingly will be in the same room as me. In general, he's a dick. -1 (no way, not happening)
Steve Aker - Boy I'm dating and madly in love with. Yes. He is amazing. I met him through Bryce/Pat/Maggie, and I was oblivious to any feelings he had for me until Pat and Maggie started heavily hinting at it. Before this, Pat and Maggie tried to glue Bryce and me together, apparently because they just really wanted me in the friends group. When Steve was allowed to actively "like" me, they became much more aggressive in hinting that we should date. Since I was unaware of his feelings for the entire time I'd known him, I was kind of in shock and just let things happen. Cue date with me and Steve, amazing best time ever, then immediate dating. Life is good. <3
Um, sort of. It depends on how you look at it. With today's technology it's a lot easier to "stay in touch" than in the past, which allows for mild snooping, and less formal contact. Let's take a look at my roster:
Eric Gleisner - We knew each other for a very long time before dating... we dating for four months, I ended it because of distance. It was very amicable, and almost sadder in that regard. We've stayed in very spotty contact over the last 8 years, always positive, always over the phone because he's a technophobe. +1 (we will always have friendship tendencies)
Eric Busch - Dated off and on for a couple years, usually ending okay. The last time we broke up I was very upset, but the desire for friendship overrode the other feelings. Then when I started dating Dan we had been in a limbo of sorts, and he ended up getting hurt and things were pretty messy for awhile. After that we didn't speak for... oh... maybe a year to two years save a brief snippet here or there on AIM. Since then, spotty internet contact and catching up. +0 (we will probably never be friends, but will always be friendly)
Dan Voegele - Dated for four years, broke up off and on for a couple months, officially broke up a month after our 4-year anniversary, then major family issues forced me to live with him a couple months after that, and we spent the next six months in this very confused state of dating-not-dating, which I like to call 60/40 dating. When he finally kicked me out, we were done. Compared to my other relationships we've kept up more consistent contact. In the beginning it was a lot of fighting texts and calls, some weird social situations we were both attending, and then we cut off contact for a few months. After everything calmed, sometimes contact, though I don't really prefer it. It's hard to get someone who was a huge part of your life for a fifth of it to disappear. Overall I feel like it was very messy, but we don't currently hate each other (though I know we did for parts of our relationship). +0 (too much has happened. In theory we could be friends, but in reality it's just too hard)
Bryce Courneya - I'm not sure if he really counts, because of the length of time we dated and we were never bf/gf, but dating him led to me dating the best boy ever, so I'm including him. Met him at a party of a mutual friend's, we immediately started hanging out pretty much every day for a month. There was always something off, and we had a lengthy talk about it and decided to not continue. That was very friendly. Then he gradually started cutting me out and becoming more rude, and when I started dating Steve he pretty much disappeared from our lives, and only grudgingly will be in the same room as me. In general, he's a dick. -1 (no way, not happening)
Steve Aker - Boy I'm dating and madly in love with. Yes. He is amazing. I met him through Bryce/Pat/Maggie, and I was oblivious to any feelings he had for me until Pat and Maggie started heavily hinting at it. Before this, Pat and Maggie tried to glue Bryce and me together, apparently because they just really wanted me in the friends group. When Steve was allowed to actively "like" me, they became much more aggressive in hinting that we should date. Since I was unaware of his feelings for the entire time I'd known him, I was kind of in shock and just let things happen. Cue date with me and Steve, amazing best time ever, then immediate dating. Life is good. <3
