I think even for people who aren't really that curious, it's sort of like...an employer not asking about your previous jobs, or what you did there, or why you left. You really should know where they're coming from--not just for information about exes but also for sexual safety as you pointed out--and you should know why those relationships ended.
I also think that as an emotion, jealousy is somewhat healthy. If you really, really aren't jealous, then maybe it's because you just don't CARE enough to be jealous. Also, learning how to deal with jealousy is a worthwhile endeavor, and something useful for all walks of life. Grass is greener to when your current significant other befriends a prior ex.
But, I think just knowing what someone used to do, and is trying to do now, is a good way of judging their character. I think that it says a lot about someone if they say, "My previous relationship was like one gigantic jealousy spaz fight, where everthing revolved around our jealous feelings," and then continue, "In my current relationship, one of the last things I want to motivate our intimacy is my jealousy, and I'm getting it under control," then you know that they're the kind of person who learns and grows from their decisions. =)
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Date: 2011-01-07 07:32 pm (UTC)I also think that as an emotion, jealousy is somewhat healthy. If you really, really aren't jealous, then maybe it's because you just don't CARE enough to be jealous. Also, learning how to deal with jealousy is a worthwhile endeavor, and something useful for all walks of life. Grass is greener to when your current significant other befriends a prior ex.
But, I think just knowing what someone used to do, and is trying to do now, is a good way of judging their character. I think that it says a lot about someone if they say, "My previous relationship was like one gigantic jealousy spaz fight, where everthing revolved around our jealous feelings," and then continue, "In my current relationship, one of the last things I want to motivate our intimacy is my jealousy, and I'm getting it under control," then you know that they're the kind of person who learns and grows from their decisions. =)