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spritechan) wrote2011-02-14 05:37 am
spritechan) wrote2011-02-14 05:37 am
Om nom nom.
New LJ theme! Ahhhh, it feels so fresh and good! I also got a new mood theme, soooo cute! I barely even wanted to kill myself when trying to make the style work the way I wanted!
This weekend was pretty busy. On Saturday I went with Bethany and Cayden to our dad's house to hang out. His birthday party's next week and Bethany REALLY doesn't want to have two parties, but she doesn't know how to say that to Pam without offending her. She's adorable because she's getting her first apartment with Chris, Sarah, and Tony, and she's super nervous.
She's also continuing to have a lot of issues with our parents. She very vehemently wants them to be more involved with their grandson, but they're soooo not having any of it. They ask her to bring Cayden over but then don't really actively participate in entertaining him or otherwise taking care of him, and it really frustrates her. Bethany wants them to take Cayden overnight as he's one years old on Friday, but Cayden is so needy and apparently Mom's going through this selfish, attention-craving phase and can't manage it. Cayden is kinda scary because he needs to be held all the time basically or he cries. Bethany went for a cigarette when we were at Dad's and Cayden cried the entire time. He's afraid of pretty much everyone but his parents.
But I know he'd get over it eventually. I tried to make it clear to her that once Steve and I move into the apartment, I truly want to help her out by taking Cayden every so often. I think my parents have taken him overnight MAYBE twice. Once for sure. In the entire last YEAR. Otherwise I KNOW that I can count on my one hand the number of times they've watched him without her. I feel really bad, but I am also really proud of her and Tony for having the patience and strength to take care of such a needy kid, so much. They're very different than all the other young parents I know. James got Brittany pregnant again (this will be child #3) and they've left Aiyana and Lilly with Pam and Dad for many days at a time, fairly often, and James is almost 30 (Brittany's 21). I also want to just SEE him and not have him cry when I hold him, and I want my sister to be able to still be something of a kid.
Anyway, otherwise, I spent time with Steve playing games. I played a good chunk of FFVI and leveled a couple times in WoW to 66 :)
This weekend was pretty busy. On Saturday I went with Bethany and Cayden to our dad's house to hang out. His birthday party's next week and Bethany REALLY doesn't want to have two parties, but she doesn't know how to say that to Pam without offending her. She's adorable because she's getting her first apartment with Chris, Sarah, and Tony, and she's super nervous.
She's also continuing to have a lot of issues with our parents. She very vehemently wants them to be more involved with their grandson, but they're soooo not having any of it. They ask her to bring Cayden over but then don't really actively participate in entertaining him or otherwise taking care of him, and it really frustrates her. Bethany wants them to take Cayden overnight as he's one years old on Friday, but Cayden is so needy and apparently Mom's going through this selfish, attention-craving phase and can't manage it. Cayden is kinda scary because he needs to be held all the time basically or he cries. Bethany went for a cigarette when we were at Dad's and Cayden cried the entire time. He's afraid of pretty much everyone but his parents.
But I know he'd get over it eventually. I tried to make it clear to her that once Steve and I move into the apartment, I truly want to help her out by taking Cayden every so often. I think my parents have taken him overnight MAYBE twice. Once for sure. In the entire last YEAR. Otherwise I KNOW that I can count on my one hand the number of times they've watched him without her. I feel really bad, but I am also really proud of her and Tony for having the patience and strength to take care of such a needy kid, so much. They're very different than all the other young parents I know. James got Brittany pregnant again (this will be child #3) and they've left Aiyana and Lilly with Pam and Dad for many days at a time, fairly often, and James is almost 30 (Brittany's 21). I also want to just SEE him and not have him cry when I hold him, and I want my sister to be able to still be something of a kid.
Anyway, otherwise, I spent time with Steve playing games. I played a good chunk of FFVI and leveled a couple times in WoW to 66 :)
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Our best druid healer says druid healing at 85 is super unfun. It has something to do with the fact that druids are used to being able to keep a whole raid topped off with hots and, well, they can't now. Really, no one can.
My only hiatus on kids is financial. I'm almost there. Almost all of my debt is gone and I have a plan for what remains. We own a house in an excellent school district and we both have clear professional objectives for the future. I just did the math on the average monthly cost of having a child from birth to age 3 and I got this little knot in my stomach. Basically, we need to work on saving more than we do, plus doubling out life insurance policies. Being detail oriented, as it turns out, is both a blessing and a curse. :(
Good call on the wedding. I know I'm really glad I waited a year and saved. So many of my friends just have crushing wedding debt. And most of the family members who said they helped bailed on the commitment.
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I've read a lot of the lore but I seem to have forgotten a good portion of it :( It doesn't help that most of the books were claimed by my ex when we broke up so I gotta re-buy them. The game def butchers the lore, but I still get gai when I see peeps I know (MEDIVHHHUHH! Oh god I <3 him).
Oh man, you're the only person I've been able to meet who actually intellectually planned for kids. I'm in the boat of, "If I thought about how much kids cost, I'd never have 'em!" But good for you for planning and being able to save for it :) I imagine it must be quite stressful to actually plan out.
My parents told me a few months ago (mom/stepdad) that they'd contribute to my wedding, and I was like "Whaaaa? I'm not even getting married for awhile, and if Steve and I get engaged in the next couple years, we'll probably wait a couple MORE years to get married..." I didn't know my parents were that traditional? And I suspect they'll be good on their word (my own dad is a different story but he's gotten better), but I never expected them to offer something like that. Usually I have to ask. Whether a kid happens before or after I'm married is of no consequence to me, so I don't feel THAT pressure.