Exactly. She does feel like it's an insult to her as well as our parents' relationship with Cayden. Mom puts up this huge front on Facebook like she spends all this time with him (taking pics and posting them and gushing) but apparently in reality she'll just take the pics and be on her merry way. Like, "Bethany, Cayden's getting too close to the stairs," "Bethany, Cayden needs to be changed!" Bethany got really upset because she changed his diaper in my parents' room, and Mom like flipped out saying she KNEW Bethany changed him on the bed (she maintains she did not do that, AND that it was only a pee diaper) and Bethany was super insulted because "it's not like he'd contaminate their bed or make a huge mess, jeez!"
It's kinda funny that she takes pride in the fact that Cayden sleeps in his crib and her bff's baby (who is 2 soon) sleeps in the bed with the parents, and yet Cayden needs to be held nearly 100% of the time when he's awake. I fail to see how her situation is worth any more smugness. Personally I plan on having Baby sleep with me - many cultures do that and the child is no more clingy or maladjusted than the next.
I think I will look into books for her, but it's delicate. She's a very typical "don't tell me how to raise MY child" mother, and I wouldn't want to insult her (dear god). She's a very good mother (and I can see myself having a difficult time letting Baby cry too). I was hoping that taking Cayden on a semi-frequent basis would help him adjust to the fact that He Is Not In Danger when his parents leave. I told her that as long as I know he's not dying of some illness or for real becoming emotionally scarred when he's crying, that I can tolerate the wailing.
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It's kinda funny that she takes pride in the fact that Cayden sleeps in his crib and her bff's baby (who is 2 soon) sleeps in the bed with the parents, and yet Cayden needs to be held nearly 100% of the time when he's awake. I fail to see how her situation is worth any more smugness. Personally I plan on having Baby sleep with me - many cultures do that and the child is no more clingy or maladjusted than the next.
I think I will look into books for her, but it's delicate. She's a very typical "don't tell me how to raise MY child" mother, and I wouldn't want to insult her (dear god). She's a very good mother (and I can see myself having a difficult time letting Baby cry too). I was hoping that taking Cayden on a semi-frequent basis would help him adjust to the fact that He Is Not In Danger when his parents leave. I told her that as long as I know he's not dying of some illness or for real becoming emotionally scarred when he's crying, that I can tolerate the wailing.